I’ve never worked with a therapist before. I like to handle things on my own. Aren’t people who go to therapy weak?
Not at all. People who ask for help are doing a brave thing. All of us, no matter how strong we are, need help now and then. The strengths you’ve used in the past may not be sufficient to solve the problems you’re currently facing. Sometimes, the issues we’re up against are so overwhelming we can’t access our greatest strengths. I can help you tap your own inner resources in specific ways that will empower you to tackle your current challenges head-on and make real progress.
What’s the difference between talking to you and chatting with my best friend, or a close member of my family?
Friends and family can provide love and support, but a trained therapist knows how to help you gain a wider vision of your life – and the ability to help you build specific strengths to address the issues that are holding you back.
When you work with me, I will listen to you without judgment or expectations. I will also teach you how to listen to yourself. Everything you say will be kept confidential; you will never have to worry that your innermost thoughts will be shared with others. You will be in a safe space where you can speak your truth without fear of shocking or hurting anyone. As you gain understanding of the patterns within your life, we will work on practical strategies for change.
Why shouldn’t I just take medication?
Medication can ease the symptoms you are feeling, but drugs alone cannot address the root cause. Working with a therapist gets at the heart of the issue, helping you see your current problems in a clearer light. This work leads to specific strategies that will help you transform the way you think and behave – the foundation for lasting change.
Many people take medication to relieve symptoms while they’re working in therapy. This combination has been proven effective for millions and might be appropriate for you.
How does therapy work? What am I expected to do?
Every person comes to me with different concerns and goals. The therapeutic approach we take will depend on where you are right now and where you want to go. The main requirement is willingness to see your life in a new light and embrace change. You must commit to showing up, being honest and working hard. If you can make this commitment, you will see progress.
How long before I see change?
That’s not a question I can answer here. You are a unique individual with your own life story. We need to determine where you are right now and where you want to go. The length of time you need to accomplish your goals will depend on the challenges you are facing, the resources available to you and your desire for personal growth. My role is to help you work steadily toward the changes you want to see.
I want to get as much as I can from therapy. How can I help?
I’m so glad you are dedicated to your own health and progress. Being fully engaged in your own care is crucial for success. After all, we only see each other for one session each week. It’s the work you do outside of our sessions that will help you realize your goals. We will talk about this daily work when we meet and I will suggest ways you can keep the momentum going.
My life partner and I are having problems. Should we be in couples therapy? Or should we see you separately?
If you are worried about your relationship and you would both like to work with me, I would begin by seeing you as a couple. At some point, we may agree that one of you should start individual sessions. However, I cannot serve as individual therapist for both you and your spouse or partner. This can compromise the safety and trust each partner feels in sharing thoughts and experiences with me.