I have had the privilege of working with married and committed couples for more than 15 years. When they come to me, many couples find themselves on the brink of splitting up. My role is not to assign blame or to assume that, as the expert, I have all the answers. Instead, I teach couples how to turn toward one another again so they can offer mutual understanding and support. Working as collaborative partners, we seek to turn their relationship into a place of love and respect.
As a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, I use many helpful tools in working with couples. I am trained in the Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Therapy and the Developmental Model advanced by The Couples Institute. I embrace more than one method because I know from experience that each couple’s needs are unique.
Many couples come to me after one or both have cheated. Virtually all want to know if their relationships can survive the pain, anger and confusion they feel in knowing their partner has been unfaithful.
Finding the answer means diving deep into the issues that surround the marriage. People cheat for so many reasons – and these reasons need to come out in the open. It is a tough process, but one that creates hope, understanding and the possibility of rebuilding the relationship on a new foundation of trust and support.
Have you noticed that your relationship with digital devices is threatening your relationship? As an expert certified by the Digital Wellness Institute, I am finding that couples are seeking help with:
- Concerns about phubbing, the practice of turning away from our partners the instant a new text or alert hits our phones
- Replacing intimacy with increasing amounts of online porn
- Binge-watching favorite shows alone instead of spending time together
- Compulsive online shopping that undermines financial health
- Emotional or even physical affairs that happen over the internet
- Staying digitally connected to work 24/7, even on vacations and holidays
Clearly, issues like these can erode the trust and closeness that are vital to your relationship. If you’re experiencing any of them — or simply feeling angry and annoyed by your partner’s addiction to tech — don’t wait until things get worse. Call me now so we can address the situation together.